Have been chatting on msn with a friend who’s got troubles and problems with relationships. Haven’t chatted with him for years but as I am chatting with him, I suddenly realize that it’s the same thing we talked about when we last chatted online and it was icq we’re using back then. You can tell how long ago it was.

And throughout the conversation, I kept telling him one thing: pray before planning/acting. 

But then he keeps telling me that he’s afraid that God will give him someone who’s not pretty and not fun.

Hmm…how does he know that God’s choice is not pretty and not fun? 

“I feel like that. Isn’t there free will that I can choose mine?"

Yea, he has free will just as we all do and he chose his own girl and then made a mess out of it. And it’s not the first time. I doubt if it’s the second either. I’m not sure. But the thing is, just as I kept asking him for the whole night: haven’t you learned the lesson? 

Following our own way just doesn’t work. Just look at all the troubles you’ve got.

But following God’s way is dangerous, he said.

Great! So…following God’s way is dangerous? Oh, tell me how much safer it is to follow your own way? You’ve chosen your own way and then got into a mess, made a whole lot of troubles. That way is proven a bad one and still you’re telling me that the way that you didn’t try (but many others did and got greatly blessed) is more dangerous because you feel so? What crap are you talking?

Yea, surely it’s easy to follow our heart and go by our own way. Take the driver’s seat and just go all the way on our way. Surely it’s easy just as it easily leads us to hell. Sometimes we just don’t learn the lesson, do we? We just so want our way. We think we know what we want. Then get ourselves into hell. Then we pray a bit and let God drive. Then after a while, we see that the alarm is off and the road seems straight, then we wanna get control of the steering wheel again. Then we put God into the backseat and become the driver … then boom! 

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart 
       and lean not on your own understanding;

in all your ways acknowledge him, 
       and he will make your paths straight." (Proverbs 3:5-6)

“In all your ways"… including LOVE. 

“And he will make your paths straight"… including the path of love as well.